In this episode, I’m addressing a topic that’s come up again in my work with families: school refusal. If your child is pushing back on going to school, it’s rarely about laziness or manipulation; it usually points to something missing. I break down five key needs that, when unmet, often show up as school refusal:
Felt sense of safety — not just being told they’re safe, but their body actually feeling it
A sense of control — having some say instead of everything being decided for them
Positive relationships — a trusted adult who genuinely connects with them
Something to look forward to — a bright spot that keeps them going through the day
Social connection — friends and peers who make school worth showing up for
This is the first episode in a series. I’ll be breaking down one practical, research-based skill per episode so it doesn’t feel overwhelming.
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